Super Black Woman + "The Talented Tenth" + Mompreneur
I am the Super Black Woman + "The Talented Tenth" + Mompreneur.
I make sure that everyone is taken care of
I make sure that my clients are priority while also making sure my children are priority
I make sure that my self-care is LAST
Focusing on myself is NOT PRODUCTIVE and after all…
I am responsible for "raising the race"
I am a "Race Woman"
I know that crying is for babies
Crying is for my preschooler who can't get her way because I told her that she can't wear a spring dress in the middle of a cold rainy Northern California season
Crying is for my 10 year old who gets a time-out from his iPad because he refuses to do his homework
Crying isn't for the Super Black Woman
We don't cry
We don't show our vulnerability
We don't have time to 'cry' or 'feel'
We are 'Race Women'
Crying, sobbing, even talking about 'feelings' are NOT PRODUCTIVE
We keep it private
In our bedroom closet
Locked away in an old wooden box with the name "Pandora" on it
Don't crumble under that weight of:
Completing work deadlines
Losing 1000 calories a day alone nursing a baby
The second shift
Scheduling doctor appointments
Bringing all your children to extra-curricular activities
Remembering that on Thursday the 5 year old has a field trip and needs to wear rain boots [that you can't find]
That the 3 year old has a nursery school ballet performance on Tuesday
The nightly broadcast about yet another Black teen close to your child's age who has had Becky call the police on them
That the kids have lice again
The Tweet that reminds you that racist based hate groups are the highest that they have ever been
Don't show any hint of crumbling
Or Breaking down
Or Giving Up
You are a "race woman”
Responsible for raising the race
DuBois' "Talented Tenth"
If Sandberg can "Lean in", then so can you
Listen to other Super Black women who wear the facade/the mask
Listen to the elders who 'made' it
That they NEVER needed therapy
And neither do you
Super Black Women are robust
We didn't need therapy to make it out of antebellum slavery
And we don't need it NOW
Ignore the physical and mental health signs that plague us
The collateral damage of being a "race woman" fused with the "talented tenth"
The panic and anxiety attacks
As long as you don't look "unkempt" and work hard…
As long as you are “3x better than them”
… Just roll with the punches
The bruises are internal
No one is going to see them and you DON'T NEED TO TALK ABOUT them
You need to be STRONG for you CHILDREN
You are a "race woman"
Raising the Black race
Wear that cape
Jump off that mountain and SOAR
Don't let anyone know that you are like any other mortal
And that you haven’t SOARED
But are bleeding
And have hit